Last year, my wife decided that she and her close friend were going to throw a birthday party for me. I can say I’ve had 2 birthday parties in my lifetime. One of them was when my sister baked me a cake from her Easy Bake oven when we were kids (for those of you keeping score at home, the Easy Bake oven should be a good clue to my age).

My wife is from Zambia and was keen to notice how Americans isolate and operate individually instead of collectively. She thought a birthday party would be a good way to bring us together. I was hesitant at first, telling her I didn’t want the attention. Then she made a simple point…a birthday party isn’t just about you…it’s for your friends and family members so that you can let them know how much you appreciate them. That made total sense to me.

The party was a great success. There were tears, laughter, food, dancing and singing. We loved it so much, we decided to do something like that every month…https://medium.com/motivation-inspiration/community-where-rugged-individualism-goes-to-die-c60fe4eb8f29?source=friends_link&sk=e2c522520902709d679abef536c3c6a7